I’m so angry and I don’t want to let you go. But I also know
that is not what you would want for your Mama. I have carried you from the
start of your beating heart to the moment that it stopped and I carry you
still. In three days every trace of you will be gone but you will remain
implanted in my heart. I don’t understand why and when I look at your beautiful
big sister the burn stings deeper. I want to hurt on the outside as much as I
do on the inside sometimes. I want it to show, I’m so tired of being strong and
I don’t want to be silent.
You two would have been so close. I close my eyes and I see
her bringing me your diapers and I see the two of you running through the back
yard, you still wobbly on your feet like she is today. It would have been a
crazy and wonderful ride for us all. But there were different plans for you, my
love. I saw your beating, tiny heart weeks ago and you consumed me at that very
moment. I finally understood and was confident that I could love someone as
much as I love my first.
I carried you every single second of your life and I will
love you for every remaining second of mine. What a privilege it has been to be
your Mom.
I promise to not be bitter and to continue to hope for more
blessings in the future. For you and for your family here with me I am going to
resolve to leave the anger and emptiness behind. It the hardest thing I have
ever had to do, saying goodbye to you.
You are in good hands. Your great grandparents are experts
in love and support. It makes me so joyful to think of you being held and
guided by them. It is the only way I can cope. What were their faces like when
they saw you for the first time? Are you
with your older sibling who joined them in 2013? I can only imagine.
I know you are
waiting for your Dad and I. It seems so
cruel that we should have to wait so long to see you. But we have a job to do
until then and I promise we won’t forget you. We will hold you in our hearts until
we can hold you in heaven.
My sweet little love, I miss you so much. You are one of the
greatest “what ifs” of my life and your time with me has been so special. My
heart hurts so badly and I wish your plan was what I had planned. I don’t have
the words to close because I don’t want to have to say goodbye, or even see you
later.
So I will just say that I love you.